Raquel English

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The Week Before Yule

Good Morning darlings,

The fall has come and in less than two weeks it’ll be Yule. I am tickled pink to share this Christmas holiday with Oliver and my BG. Last year I was spending the time with my children in Oklahoma, which was lovely in itself too. I do look forward to having all my children visit me here on the coast, perhaps next year. That’ll be a dream.

This is a little picture I painted for our holiday card. It turned out adorable. The inside caption says,”Merry kisses and Christmas wishes. Love, The Stafford’s” I love it so…

It’s so interesting to me that when I was raising all of my children I had so many traditions and carried on with all of them. Things in my life now are so much simpler. I find having a lovely fresh Frazier fir, a few handmade ornaments, a few strands of lights, some balsam pine candles and I’m as pleased as punch.

I think that one of the reasons for all of the bells and whistles that I used to have to have, was truthfully because I was trying to fill gaps that were lacking in my life.

You know what else is interesting? I see that in so many women nowadays. If I could just cradle them and chat with them, telling them life isn’t about “STUFF” or staying so busy. I used to be that woman that would catch onto all those pyramid businesses, like selling candles, cosmetics, pampered chef parties, etc. you name it… I was staying absorbed in it all. That’s not even considering all the volunteering I did. Now, I’m not one to say that I don’t like to serve and be kind in that way, but I know that where my heart was in doing the acts of service weren’t where I should’ve been. I believe too many women extend themselves way beyond their capabilities. All in the name of trying to earn a sense of self-love and acceptance. When the acceptance we are internally really reaching for is our own acceptance. We truly come from a conditioned society of feeling the need to earn our existence. I really believe that if women had more self-love and confidence we wouldn’t have so much depression and stress among women.

I do also realize that I was on my own journey too back then {still am} and we all learn from our own life experiences, not words.

I find that really loving the act to serve out of the sheer joy of it, is the way to go. If we have a guilt, feeling of having to, feeling sorry for, obligation, we should not do anything under the guise of these feelings. It’s all in vain anyway, if you ask me. I say that because what happened to me is that I started to resent people and any kind of act, even down to doing things for my husband, children and parents.

My rule of thumb now is… I ask myself, do I really want to do this? Am I doing it because I really want to, and am I doing it for the sheer joy of it? If those are a ‘Yes’ I’m all aboard!

I happy as a clam for you each swimming by to say hello and spend a little time with me today. I also wish you a lovely Christmas and a most beautiful New Year!

I personally cannot wait! Everyday is truly a gift and I have a whole treasure chest full of them!

I love you each so very much.

 
raquelsig