Raquel English

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The Week Before Yule

Good Morning darlings,

The fall has come and in less than two weeks it’ll be Yule. I am tickled pink to share this Christmas holiday with Oliver and my BG. Last year I was spending the time with my children in Oklahoma, which was lovely in itself too. I do look forward to having all my children visit me here on the coast, perhaps next year. That’ll be a dream.

This is a little picture I painted for our holiday card. It turned out adorable. The inside caption says,”Merry kisses and Christmas wishes. Love, The Stafford’s” I love it so…

It’s so interesting to me that when I was raising all of my children I had so many traditions and carried on with all of them. Things in my life now are so much simpler. I find having a lovely fresh Frazier fir, a few handmade ornaments, a few strands of lights, some balsam pine candles and I’m as pleased as punch.

I think that one of the reasons for all of the bells and whistles that I used to have to have, was truthfully because I was trying to fill gaps that were lacking in my life.

You know what else is interesting? I see that in so many women nowadays. If I could just cradle them and chat with them, telling them life isn’t about “STUFF” or staying so busy. I used to be that woman that would catch onto all those pyramid businesses, like selling candles, cosmetics, pampered chef parties, etc. you name it… I was staying absorbed in it all. That’s not even considering all the volunteering I did. Now, I’m not one to say that I don’t like to serve and be kind in that way, but I know that where my heart was in doing the acts of service weren’t where I should’ve been. I believe too many women extend themselves way beyond their capabilities. All in the name of trying to earn a sense of self-love and acceptance. When the acceptance we are internally really reaching for is our own acceptance. We truly come from a conditioned society of feeling the need to earn our existence. I really believe that if women had more self-love and confidence we wouldn’t have so much depression and stress among women.

I do also realize that I was on my own journey too back then {still am} and we all learn from our own life experiences, not words.

I find that really loving the act to serve out of the sheer joy of it, is the way to go. If we have a guilt, feeling of having to, feeling sorry for, obligation, we should not do anything under the guise of these feelings. It’s all in vain anyway, if you ask me. I say that because what happened to me is that I started to resent people and any kind of act, even down to doing things for my husband, children and parents.

My rule of thumb now is… I ask myself, do I really want to do this? Am I doing it because I really want to, and am I doing it for the sheer joy of it? If those are a ‘Yes’ I’m all aboard!

I happy as a clam for you each swimming by to say hello and spend a little time with me today. I also wish you a lovely Christmas and a most beautiful New Year!

I personally cannot wait! Everyday is truly a gift and I have a whole treasure chest full of them!

I love you each so very much.


3 Easy Steps To Create Love And Happiness In Your Day

Good Morning Mermaid Junkies,

You sang your siren songs to me about what stresses you were struggling with and I listened.

Here’re a few things that will help you.

If we give ourselves the attention needed, our lives will become less stressful and we will have more Happiness in life. I promise you this.

Try these few things today. They won’t take long and I’ve made them easy for you.

1.  Look in the mirror and repeat these love affirmations to you at least 12 times.

It may be awkward at first, but I promise it gets easier every day that you do it.

love affirmations

2. State 7 things you are Grateful for.

Gratitude springs forth more gratitude & abundance.

Even starting very small will impact you significantly.

pearls of gratitude

3. Toss negative thoughts into the ocean!

When a negative thought emerges immediately repeat this:

“I am enough. I love myself and Heavenly Father loves me.”

I want to serve and help you. I love you. I want you to love yourself.

I want you to learn to love yourself and I know that’s the key to all the struggles and trials we face. When we start from within we can change our lives and the world. It all starts with one stroke at a time.

What struggles or waves of sadness do you face today?

I am praying for you today my friends.