Raquel English

Category Archives: self love

The Week Before Yule

Good Morning darlings,

The fall has come and in less than two weeks it’ll be Yule. I am tickled pink to share this Christmas holiday with Oliver and my BG. Last year I was spending the time with my children in Oklahoma, which was lovely in itself too. I do look forward to having all my children visit me here on the coast, perhaps next year. That’ll be a dream.

This is a little picture I painted for our holiday card. It turned out adorable. The inside caption says,”Merry kisses and Christmas wishes. Love, The Stafford’s” I love it so…

It’s so interesting to me that when I was raising all of my children I had so many traditions and carried on with all of them. Things in my life now are so much simpler. I find having a lovely fresh Frazier fir, a few handmade ornaments, a few strands of lights, some balsam pine candles and I’m as pleased as punch.

I think that one of the reasons for all of the bells and whistles that I used to have to have, was truthfully because I was trying to fill gaps that were lacking in my life.

You know what else is interesting? I see that in so many women nowadays. If I could just cradle them and chat with them, telling them life isn’t about “STUFF” or staying so busy. I used to be that woman that would catch onto all those pyramid businesses, like selling candles, cosmetics, pampered chef parties, etc. you name it… I was staying absorbed in it all. That’s not even considering all the volunteering I did. Now, I’m not one to say that I don’t like to serve and be kind in that way, but I know that where my heart was in doing the acts of service weren’t where I should’ve been. I believe too many women extend themselves way beyond their capabilities. All in the name of trying to earn a sense of self-love and acceptance. When the acceptance we are internally really reaching for is our own acceptance. We truly come from a conditioned society of feeling the need to earn our existence. I really believe that if women had more self-love and confidence we wouldn’t have so much depression and stress among women.

I do also realize that I was on my own journey too back then {still am} and we all learn from our own life experiences, not words.

I find that really loving the act to serve out of the sheer joy of it, is the way to go. If we have a guilt, feeling of having to, feeling sorry for, obligation, we should not do anything under the guise of these feelings. It’s all in vain anyway, if you ask me. I say that because what happened to me is that I started to resent people and any kind of act, even down to doing things for my husband, children and parents.

My rule of thumb now is… I ask myself, do I really want to do this? Am I doing it because I really want to, and am I doing it for the sheer joy of it? If those are a ‘Yes’ I’m all aboard!

I happy as a clam for you each swimming by to say hello and spend a little time with me today. I also wish you a lovely Christmas and a most beautiful New Year!

I personally cannot wait! Everyday is truly a gift and I have a whole treasure chest full of them!

I love you each so very much.

 
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The Tides Are Turning & I Got A Bunny!

Hello there Mermaid Junkies,

How are you my lovelies? I hope this week is serving you well, and that you are enjoying your life immensely.

So here’s the dealio.

After major alterations, life changes, and much contemplation I’ve been going back and forth like waves bashing against the rocks trying to figure out a way to sort of transform my little blog here.

But…

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If you need me, I’m almost always here…and when I’m not

I’m usually with my beloved or working on some

hair-brained ideas that I constantly think of at 2 am.

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Can one ever go wrong with linen and some driftwood? I think not.

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After much thought, I’ve decided this blog is exactly where it should be. Just like my tag line in the header, “The way she ‘seas’ things.” is right on point. The only thing that will change is that I’ll be adding several more features to the blog, like embedding my Mermaid Junkie videos from YouTube, adding some DIY projects/videos and also adding my online store. My online store will be things I’ve made that are all coastal/ Mermaid inspired. Always… Y’all know me. Even though I have clients that are very conventional and like their design that way, I will always fair on the natural side of my gypsy spirit and be an unconventional designer.

I think of all the waves that have taken place recently, I am so much more accepting and appreciative of my spirit and the way I am as a woman. I do believe that with so many people consumed with appearances, competitiveness and trying to stay ahead of the game, I can truthfully say I love where I am at. Right here. Right now. This very minute.

Oh and for you darlings who couldn’t resist waiting for my vlog about house bunnies, without further ado…

Meet Oliver Twist, my house bunny.

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I’m working on a vlog post about all the treasure troves of wisdom when it comes to having a pet bunny. I hope you’ll swim on back later.

And for now, Mermaid Junkies, I hope you are having a pleasant day and as always…

I’m yours til my next swim, Love Rock

Things Aren’t Always What They Seem

Wednesday: Upwelling Wednesday

This is the Spiritual need, the need to leave a legacy.

The need to leave a legacy, to have a sense of meaning, purpose, pride, personal satisfaction and contribution to the world.

I received a phone call tonight from someone that I revere as my mentor. Sena King is her name and she’s the most wonderful woman I know, besides my own mother.

I’ve actually known Aunt Sena since birth. You can read that story here if you’d like.

I was grateful for the in-depth conversation that I had with her in regards to appearances and being judged from an external perspective.

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When you are always on the path to personal growth there’s’ a constant flow of the spirit helping to guide and lead you to more and more self-discovery.
As I was chatting with Aunt Sena she mentioned that because I had been currently using such verbiage as enlightenment, universe, affirmations and etc. (that she had failed to mention anything for fear of upsetting me), but she had started to believe I was on the brink of abandoning my religion.

I was very grateful to her to for mentioning her thoughts with me and that I could plainly see that perhaps there were others that may be confused or have become curious about my core values as well.

The interesting thing to me is that never at any time have I begun to lose my faith or religion.

I am in a field of work that requires me to always be immersed in concepts, beliefs, human behavior and theory. So many times in order to remain open to many faiths or religions with my foundation, I will use all types of verbiage.

My foundation (The English Settlement) and Mermaid Junkie School is based on universal principles. I chose to keep my religion out of it, just as Stephen Covey kept his religion out of his career. Not for fear, but for the actual principles that I teach. I don’t teach doctrine.

I was shown this evening that no matter what you are doing, you will always be judged and that people are always watching your life even when you think they aren’t.

I find it interesting that when using certain words people begin to label you a certain way.
It seems as though I’ll always be labeled.

But today I rest with ease with being labeled a girl that believes in a Savior, a God, and a wildly magical love for Mermaids.

No matter what you are or believe, it should not matter to anyone but you and your God.
Have a day filled with  Mermaid Junkies!