I once lived with someone in the public eye. There is no comparison in the velocity of Johnny Depp's popularity status and mine; however, when I heard the tapes, I felt enormous triggers. As with Amber Heard, my ex ill-suited mate also used his popularity with the public and the insecurities of the quiet one in the relationship to further bullying and create a narrative to benefit them. I related to Johnny and will explain their relationship from my subjective opinion. I think we can all learn a bit about ourselves and our own relationships.
Let us not mistake this post as pure gossip. Instead, I'm interested in my approach to spiritual and emotional healing. This story will assist us all in working within ourselves regardless of a person being a celebrity. This demonstrates we are all human with areas in our lives that can use improvement and healing.
I think the world needs to look at this situation collectively as a whole, but more importantly than that, to look at it with a fine-tooth comb. I believe Hollywood failed extensively. I'm pointing fingers at many folks, most notably at the moment, Disney, for firing Johnny from Pirates of the Caribbean. I surely hope that if they intend to reevaluate his role as Captain Jack, I feel justice will have been served when he rejects them entirely, and the next instalment of Pirates releases; it tanks rotten tomatoes style.
Psychopaths and narcissists leave bread crumbs. If you have ever paid more attention to Johnny Depp other than his superb acting skills and undeniable good looks, one would instantly see there have never been bread crumbs that have lent anyone to believe that he mistreats women. In fact, he's quite the opposite and since my opinion matters here, he seems to be a southern gentleman through and through.
I want to bring an entirely different perspective as I know there's always a deeper reason for why everything happens in the world, especially when it pertains to relationships.
I became fascinated with this story, for the most part, because if you know anything at all about me, I have been captivated with Johnny Depp since before I can remember.
I've never been intrigued with him for the same reasons as most folks.
In all honesty, I wanted to break down what was happening in their relationship. So I'm going to give my viewpoint from a mental health standpoint, the law of assumption and spiritual perspective.
When Johnny and Amber married, I saw the end before it started. I remember seeing him on David Letterman, and I thought at that moment, this is not good, and this relationship will end promptly. I did not know for the reasons that are now apparent; however, my gut told me something. I can resonate with Johnny as being a person in a relationship with a narcissistic psychopath, the gaslighting, twisting words, stonewalling, etc. Amber exhibits every single behaviour of a mental and physical abuser. It was all there. Here's the audio from Youtube, if you'd like to listen.
Go ahead; I'll wait.
As a woman, Amber used her public persona, in the climate of the #metoo movement to her advantage and everyone pretty much fell for it. I would also venture to guess that this has become yet another bit of salt on an already open wound for Johnny's disdain for Hollywood. Hollywood loves you when you can do something for them, but you're out on your arse with no loyalty if there ever comes controversy attached to one's name. I have a mind to believe this will thin the herd, so to speak, and Johnny will learn who his true friends are and are not. Everybody's left to their own devices, and I think Hollywood is the Hotel California; you can check out but never leave.
Yes, I think that Johnny and Amber have substance abuse issues. However, substance abuse is only the symptom of deeper problems that have been neglected. Substance abuse and alcohol are what many folks do to numb pain. I liken it to placing a bandaid on a bullet wound. It never works long term, yet much of this old blue marble consistently does it.
At one time in his life, Johnny had stated that he had a terrible relationship with his mother, Betty Sue. I have gathered many articles and went down the rabbit holes of research for decades of little snippets written and quoted by Johnny Depp. Until his meeting of Amber (which was an ultimate entanglement to happen based on everyone is you pushed out, a Neville Goddard philosophy), for many years he was able to stay far from women that internally had traits similar to Betty Sue. However, as I've stated many times, childhood damage and unhealed trauma will always peek their ugly head. As Betty Sue aged, she became a softer person. I believe Johnny tried to amend his pain with his mother preceding her death; however, from my perspective and what actually has taken place currently, he simply bandaged it.
Although he and his mother made amends on the external, he still holds residual pain from his childhood that he never thoroughly healed. The scandal took a different turn in that Johnny struggles to speak and have his voice heard. I can relate to this; however, I believe at the end of play, somewhere on the boat plank, if Johnny can gain a sense of strength to share his story, we will hear the absolute truth. Amber (just as many abusers use the insecurities in their mate to manipulate their narrative) Amber and Johnny's fundamental lack in their individual emotional healing and low self-concept and worth is why they attracted one another with which to begin. They would most likely tell you this isn't true; however, from my experience, we attract the need from within ourselves from another; instead of genuinely fulfilling our own needs, we seek it externally in another. Our attracting is done energetically through mirroring, and I have been teaching mirroring in my work for nearly a decade. Do not believe for a moment that our dominating and non-resistant thoughts do not materialise because they do. However, most human folks struggle to acknowledge their own harvest, for the belief is why would someone actively attract something they do not want. It's unconsciously done folks.
In my analysis, Amber Heard has abandonment issues and desires to be rescued (from a male figure), which stems deeply from her childhood trauma with her own father. She strikes me as a woman who abuses (mentally and emotionally) men as a way to exploit and feel dominating power (as if she's squaring off with her own father). Amber is in relationships with women to feel strong because she felt powerless as a young child. Her mother was abused (purely speculation; however, I would bet quid I am correct) by Amber's father, in turn making Amber have a deep-seated hatred for males in her life. Amber then uses her appearance and motherly nurturing skills on men as a way to feel control and lure them in. I would assume she saw disturbing abuse and violence as a child, just as Johnny did; they had similarities at a foundational level, just in the opposite sex. Johnny had this emotion for his mother and Amber for her father. They were bound to collide.
In my opinion, Johnny gives off the notion he wants to save women (lingering childhood trauma to save his mother from herself), in turn genuinely meaning to save himself. See where I'm going with this? For Johnny to feel those first emotions of love (which should have come from a mother, the most critical nurturer at the start of life, which he never received), he seeks to rescue women, which means he sincerely is attempting to save himself. We all, as humans, are selfishly trying to be our own saviour because that is how it should be. We come to earth with the garment of flesh, blood and bones to again realise we are all gods and here to save ourselves and recognise our power. But, for a woman to love and accept Johnny precisely for who he is, I wonder if he's not ever found that in a woman. Hence, he's never uncovered that buried treasure within. Thumbs crossed, though, because perhaps he will this time around after he has healed his heart.
He once spoke about his mother saying, "she was the meanest human being he had ever met in his entire life." Another small thing I've noticed about Johnny is that I have yet to hear him refer to Amber by her name. When we want to disassociate from our pain, we remove anything endearing. Have you ever noticed how often Johnny refers to his mother as Betty Sue? He rarely calls her mother or anything of sweet notions such as his Mama. Johnny had a tattoo put onto his fingers which was first inked: Slim, then he changed it to Scum, which I think was his anger phase, and now, Scam, which he presumably feels is what Amber did to him. I think it's very apparent and of no coincidence that the 'A' is in red which signifies anarchy. photo here
Anarchy: A anti-authoritarian political and social philosophy that rejects hierarchies deemed unjust and advocates their replacement with self-managed, self-governed societies based on voluntary, cooperative institutions.
Did you read that ‘unjust’ portion? Johnny has an enormous interest when things are unjust. I adore Johnny for his rebel nature which reminds me of my son Sawyer and that they have birthdays one day apart.
I believe Johnny was attracted to Amber because she and Johnny reflected each other's deep internal desire to be rescued through mirroring. Johnny retreats when violence occurs, primarily through physical abuse, and he seems to do this on autopilot. As a child of dysfunction, I also would withdraw as a way to cope with my developmental trauma. We as humans either freeze, flee or fight. This is in our DNA and how we are made. Johnny is obviously a fleer. In my childhood, I was also a fleer (I ran, literally, figurately and emotionally.) I believe Johnny may have fleed as a young man. This is also an exact reminder of his childhood trauma with his mother.
Perhaps Johnny runs as a way of feeling free, fleeing in safety, hence why he left his family when he was young as a way to escape. When we build our coping mechanisms as children, we learn to comfort ourselves and gain safety and depending on our coping skills, we take those behaviours into adulthood. We will constantly use them even if they do not work long term. We must go internally and rewire the nervous system and the subconscious mind. The pain that Johnny and Amber demonstrate is rampant in the world. Also, the pain that early developmental trauma caused in me was precisely why I invented The Carter Creation. (The Carter Creation system I developed alters subconscious wiring and permanently heals early negative self-concepts.)
As an entertainer, another way Johnny escapes is through his roles. Johnny has stated in an interview before that his mother would throw things and hit him. Amber exhibits this same behaviour. Amber feels abandoned when Johnny flees, which triggers Amber's abandonment trauma. So instead of Amber getting what she needs from her inner being, she blames Johnny (or whoever she's in a relationship with) for not chasing her. Johnny has the internal need to save Amber. In actuality a deep innate desire to save himself. Once again, this is another example of our true inner being and what our soul must receive to console and protect itself. However, instead of going inside and fixing ourselves, we look to fix another. We must begin to heal ourselves from within, and the desire to fix others will dissipate.
It was challenging to listen to the audio. However, I believe that Johnny has to learn at his sage age that knowing how much he authentically believes in truth, he must speak and stand.
(Do you recall, because I do, very vividly, many years ago, Johnny was the token celebrity face for The West Memphis Three and poster face for Damien Echols, who was unjustly accused of murder and had spent 18 years on death row.)
There's that word again, unjust.
Despite the extreme contrast of this experience for Johnny, I unquestionably visualise it because I dwell on the possibility that this entire ordeal will become a pivotal, life-changing moment for Johnny Depp. It indeed is now the time for Johnny to cut the anchors that have had him bound from speaking his truth for so long. I am unconditional in this post, and I can unequivocally say that I wish for Amber to find her truth and eventually do the right thing. I want to be optimistic because I do believe folks can and do change. However, I also think that unless we become responsible for our actions and do not use victimhood as an excuse, there will be little to no change. Most often, for a person to change entirely, they have to feel massive pain. Here's the really brilliant news, we always reap what we sow. When we plant seeds of good, we will receive a good harvest. Our harvest is always identical to the seeds we've planted.
I believe Johnny Depp is on the very brink of using his inner navigational compass to find his treasure map, called his inner being. I want to see him soar sky-high.
Johnny will always be a southern gentleman indeed, and I look forward to the day when he says to all of those folks that didn't believe in him,
" You've stolen me, and I'm here to take myself back!" ~ Captain Jack Sparrow
Most affably yours til my next swim, Raquelxxx
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